Archives For February 2014

DUDE I WANT THAT dot com inspired this post.


Yes please. Dude, I really want that Bubble Tank by Psalt Design.

I’ve chosen a life that doesn’t support a commitment to living with a cat or dog. But recently, I’ve been seriously considering bringing fishies into my home to keep my airplants company. But the price tag of this fish tank was a disappointment and it seems that the company is based in the UK. I’m still considering getting fishies but of course now I have to find something as or more whimsical than the Bubble Tank. Briefly disappointed, but, what else? What else does Dude have to offer?

Reverse Peephole Viewers!

DudeIWantThat claimed (with a critically wagging finger) that reverse peephole viewers could be purchased on, and I checked and, lo’ and behold, there’s a whole buffet of models for the peeping inclined.

reverse peephole viewer

And now, here I am, wondering how the internet and social media practices and social networking culture have changed our voyeurism habits. Do people in urban settings still have binoculars and peek (peep) into the lives of strangers across the way? Or are they doing something else now with the technology that we have available?

I googled voyeurism + social media + infographic, pushed the magic button, and Social Media Today‘s link to Narcissism and The Selfie Phenomenon Infographic ranked at the top of the search. I guess I shouldn’t be too surprised.

According to Brian Wallace, who wrote the SMT piece, social media may be the main suspect for turning us all into self-absorbed narcissists who “tend to dismiss, negate or ignore the concerns of others […] to believe they’re above the rules […] hate taking criticism or responsibility—and […] typically get angry or irritated very easily.” Them is fighting words!

He goes on to say “according to credible studies” that “those who are very active on Facebook and Twitter tend to have narcissistic or insecure personalities [and] in many cases, those who frequently update Facebook statuses or post Tweets are doing it to glorify themselves.”

The article closes with a question: Do you think narcissism is an inevitable reaction to our social networking culture? Please share your thoughts in the comments, and be sure to check out the infographic below to learn more.


Well, going back to my original question about voyeurism and what people are doing these days. Throw in narcissism and selfies. What comes out of the pot? Wickr, the “adult version of SnapChat.”

Wickr is a self-destructing messaging app that allows you to “set the countdown timer on your messages (as short as a few seconds, as long as six days), send them to…recipients, then watch as they blow up with a cool animated explosion on the screen when the clock runs down.” And BONUS: “Wickr isn’t strictly for text communication, it supports photo, video and audio as well….Some municipal governments have been using the app’s audio feature to function as an encrypted radio system for emergency workers, local government employees, and the like. This is traditionally a very costly thing to set up, but it’s free inside of Wickr.”

Wickr: Dude I might Want That.

Oh, and the infographic? What would my comment be? Well, you know how when you add <in bed> to the end of fortune cookies, it changes the nature of the message? Well, this is how I see this infographic. I swapped out [social media] with [money] and the infographic still made sense, though it took on a slightly cynical tone. Finished with <in bed> and it turned into farce.


I was working on this social media content plan for one of the books I’m working on. Dark YA fiction. Music, the Persephone myth, Baudelaire… all tropes and themes, wonderful avenues for me to pursue.

Since Persephone is the daughter of Demeter (and Zeus), I got a little sidetracked. I have a male Russian acquaintance named Dimitri. If Demeter is the Greek Goddess of the Harvest who also presides over sacred law and the cycle of life and death, if I do an online search of Demetri or Dimitri, would the result be the same? came up first in my google search and I thought, Oh, I like that: Sheknows. Well, SheKnowssays this about Dimitri/Demetri:

In Greek the meaning of the name Demetri is: Gift from Demeter. In Latin the meaning of the name Demetri is: Of Demeter. Demeter is the mythological Greek goddess of corn and harvest. She withdraws for the part of the year her daughter Persephone must spend with the god of the underworld – the reason for winter.

People with this name have a deep inner desire to use their abilities in leadership, and to have personal independence. They would rather focus on large, important issues, and delegate the details. People with this name tend to be idealistic, highly imaginative, intuitive, and spiritual. They seek after spiritual truth and often find it. They tend to be visionary and may inspire others. If they fail to develop their potential, they may become dreamers, or misuse power.

And then (this is how it happens…surfing the web for hours) I looked up another name and SheKnows was uncannily spot on. Eerily precise. So much so that I emailed my friend and he responded: That sounds like me!

Of course my brain was all aswirl: chicken or the egg dilemma. What came first?…Fatalism…Are we indeed powerless to do anything other than what we actually do? Logical fatalism, theological fatalism, causal determinism, Aristotle?!!!

I had to find out what my name meant according to SheKnows. What’s messy (or interesting?) about my name is that I have two first names. They’re not hyphenated. And the second name is actually a not so common spelling. My two names combined mean Bitter Light. And after reading the description of the traits associated with both names, I was floored.

bitter light

Marie: People with this name have a deep inner desire for a stable, loving family or community, and a need to work with others and to be appreciated. People with this name tend to initiate events, to be leaders rather than followers, with powerful personalities. They tend to be focused on specific goals, experience a wealth of creative new ideas, and have the ability to implement these ideas with efficiency and determination. They tend to be courageous and sometimes aggressive. As unique, creative individuals, they tend to resent authority, and are sometimes stubborn, proud, and impatient.

Ellinor: People with this name have a deep inner desire for love and companionship, and want to work with others to achieve peace and harmony. People with this name tend to be orderly and dedicated to building their lives on a solid foundation of order and service. They value truth, justice, and discipline, and may be quick-tempered with those who do not. Their practical nature makes them good at managing and saving money, and at building things in the material world. Because of their focus on order and practicality, they may seem overly cautious and conservative at times.

I’m not a staunch believer in horoscopes or numerology, but I do have an immense amount of fun when I come across this sort of stuff. I wrote an earlier post about Blood Types. Horoscopes, numerology, zodiac–they all fall under the same category for me. Fun, fluff, with a dash of… hmmm… maybe?

Curious about your name and its connection with your personality? Check it here:

Was it accurate? Si o Niet? I wanna know. Share please!