I catch myself and others around me using Sorry as filler. As an interruption. A question. An entrance.
And when the word needs to be used as it was intended, it requires a qualification.
I’m really sorry is a common one.
I consciously stop myself now from verbalizing or writing Sorry for minor things. Being late. Bumping into someone on the subway.
I’ve found that other words or an explanation go further.
I didn’t hear you. Repeat what you just said please.
The train was delayed. I hope you haven’t been waiting too long.
Maybe I’m making a mountain of a molehill. But it bothers me that we’re saying Sorry when we’re really not. Or if we haven’t done anything wrong.
The New York Times, in an article, Do you apologize too much? explored this same issue. Read the article.
And, what the hell, do this little experiment tomorrow. See how many times you catch yourself saying Sorry or hear others using it.
Mountain? Molehill? Did you mean it? Did they mean it?
I’m forecasting lots of Nos.